"ALL IS WELL" - Power of Positive Thinking

Yesterday,I watched the tamil flick "Nanban" remake of Hindi Blockbuster "3 idiots",  the film looked so fresh as a remake version too. Jus loved it. How beautiful is the term " All is well". There are times, when we feel down,when expectation doesnt coincide with reality.During the tough times, its easy to quit but staying and proving one's worth is the real deal.It's always necessary for our mind to boost with the thought of "Everything happens for good"

As a school student, I was below average in academics.According to my maths teacher, i never existed at the first place and so was my maths scores too.When i moved to college, my teachers and fellow classmates said i am intelligent, that was totally a new word to me. The very word created interest to study and read books.Purpose of education shifted its focus from scores to attaining knowledge. Books can be a very beautiful companion,it does change our thought process.Life is the  best teacher,it always gives us choice to create ourselves. Searching and learning is where the miracle of life begins.

I have always taken life as the way it comes, guided by strong intuition. Till date, have no regrets about the way i am handling life ...it is important to set goal but if you are not sure of goal , dont bother ,there is and there will always be unexplored creative zone for one to explore and mark the niche

The very heaven and hell is not an external phenomena,its the way we see life. Religion makes us to believe that committing sin is the root cause for our birth   .True religion should teach us positive thinking ,it shouldnt degrade our very existence.Every situation that one goes through in life should make us a strong person and not as a weak one.When there is no struggle, there is no strength

Let however the time be...good or not so good kind. When something leaves you then it simply means there is something better awaiting for you . Till then just say "ALL IS WELL" :)

Art of Parenting

Recent incident took place in Chennai shook the entire state. 15 yr old boy stabbed his teacher in class during school hours.This is not a new incident, these kinds of juvenile crimes happens across the world.One has to realize that the new generation are very sensitive and overly aggressive.Thanks to media and adult sites for leading them to negative exposure.

The journey of Parenthood is not a smooth one,in modern society especially among nuclear families both the husband and wife have to slog for providing comforts for their children,in offering them best education and this scenario is applicable for single parent too.Spouses have no time for each other,work pressure and family demands and responsibilities are increased day by day. Parents set unlimited expectation from their children,right from scoring high grades to be a super duper in all extra curricular activities Children are going through lot of stress,we force them to mature at a younger age.From the concept of we to I interest has increased among individuals in the family.  

Present day kids learn the aggressive behavior right from age 4, all these video games are one way of initiating the aggressive behavior .Gone are those days,when children had the opportunity to hear moral stories and code of  behavior in the class. Schools have seized from a respectful educational institution  to money making industry.Each school is competing with other school to prove their worth through their academic scores which in turn could bring better input in increase in no.of seats for the following academic year.Parents & Teachers  have missed the importance of teaching human values to students."What we sow is what we reap".

Every child is influenced majorly by their peer group.It doesnt matter whether the kid has wonderful parents or teachers.Its the very choice of friends influence the mind of young adults.Adolescent problems has to kept as one among the curriculum, it is definitely the duty of society to nourish younger minds the art of empathy and compassion.All of us know, adolescence is a frustrating phase for young adults as there is so much of physical and psychological changes that every teen goes through....new friends,new habits ...they dont have time to think what is right and what is wrong, their only goal is to be accepted and be popular among their peer group.Parents should have friendly approach towards their teen kids,only if and if they can consider their parents as friends,they would be able to open up and discuss their thoughts to family members but by and large adults dont have an open mind in accepting their children faults.

It is essential to have practical parenting courses and classes to be conducted for Parents and Teachers in bringing up better adults to the society.

Science behind Love

Valentine's day is round the corner.People are intoxicated with thoughts of love & romance .Is love a matter of heart or a matter of mind.Most often,we confuse love with infatuation and lust.This attraction factor is neither a heart nor a matter of mind but a hormonal reaction.Brain becomes illogical in the throes of new romance,literally blind to the shortcomings of the lover .This fevered brain activity runs on hormones and neurochemicals such as dopamine,estrogen,oxytocin and testosterone.

There is some truth to the notion that people can become addicted to love.Romantic partners,especially in the initial phase of six months ,crave the ecstatic feeling of being together and helplessly dependent on each other.Studies of passionate love show this brain state lasts for roughly six to eight months .

During times of physical separation ,a deep longing for the beloved can set in."Absence makes the heart grow fonder".We are used to thinking of this longing as only psychological,but its actually physical.The brain is virtually in a drug - withdrawal state.Mothers often warn their daughters not to get too close with a new boyfriend,and this advice may be wiser than they realize.The act of hugging or cuddling releases the oxytocin in the female brain and its likely to trust the hugger.To bond successfully with a romantic partner,males are thought to need testosterone and vasopressin boosts a male's energy,attention and aggression.When men in love experience the effects of vasopressin,they have laser like focus on their beloved and actively track her in their mind's eyes,even when she isn't present.

Love circuits in men get extra kick when stress levels are high.After an intense physical challenge ,for instance , males will bond quickly with the first willing female they lay eyes on.This may be the reason,military men under stress of war often bring home brides.Women, by contrast,will be able to express affection and desire when she is stress free.This is one main reason, why couple's quarrel  during their middle age.When woman experience betrayal or loss of love ,they also respond differently than men do.When love is lost,abandoned men are three to four times more likely to commit sucide.Women ,by contrast,sink into depression.They crib and cry all the time and withdraw from social activities.Love is absolutely a phenomena of brain, the long term stay is possible only when the partner understand the biological difference and accept each other in totality.

Happy Valentines day :)