Valentine's day is round the corner.People are intoxicated with thoughts of love & romance .Is love a matter of heart or a matter of mind.Most often,we confuse love with infatuation and lust.This attraction factor is neither a heart nor a matter of mind but a hormonal reaction.Brain becomes illogical in the throes of new romance,literally blind to the shortcomings of the lover .This fevered brain activity runs on hormones and neurochemicals such as dopamine,estrogen,oxytocin and testosterone.
There is some truth to the notion that people can become addicted to love.Romantic partners,especially in the initial phase of six months ,crave the ecstatic feeling of being together and helplessly dependent on each other.Studies of passionate love show this brain state lasts for roughly six to eight months .
During times of physical separation ,a deep longing for the beloved can set in."Absence makes the heart grow fonder".We are used to thinking of this longing as only psychological,but its actually physical.The brain is virtually in a drug - withdrawal state.Mothers often warn their daughters not to get too close with a new boyfriend,and this advice may be wiser than they realize.The act of hugging or cuddling releases the oxytocin in the female brain and its likely to trust the hugger.To bond successfully with a romantic partner,males are thought to need testosterone and vasopressin boosts a male's energy,attention and aggression.When men in love experience the effects of vasopressin,they have laser like focus on their beloved and actively track her in their mind's eyes,even when she isn't present.
Love circuits in men get extra kick when stress levels are high.After an intense physical challenge ,for instance , males will bond quickly with the first willing female they lay eyes on.This may be the reason,military men under stress of war often bring home brides.Women, by contrast,will be able to express affection and desire when she is stress free.This is one main reason, why couple's quarrel during their middle age.When woman experience betrayal or loss of love ,they also respond differently than men do.When love is lost,abandoned men are three to four times more likely to commit sucide.Women ,by contrast,sink into depression.They crib and cry all the time and withdraw from social activities.Love is absolutely a phenomena of brain, the long term stay is possible only when the partner understand the biological difference and accept each other in totality.
Happy Valentines day :)
There is some truth to the notion that people can become addicted to love.Romantic partners,especially in the initial phase of six months ,crave the ecstatic feeling of being together and helplessly dependent on each other.Studies of passionate love show this brain state lasts for roughly six to eight months .
During times of physical separation ,a deep longing for the beloved can set in."Absence makes the heart grow fonder".We are used to thinking of this longing as only psychological,but its actually physical.The brain is virtually in a drug - withdrawal state.Mothers often warn their daughters not to get too close with a new boyfriend,and this advice may be wiser than they realize.The act of hugging or cuddling releases the oxytocin in the female brain and its likely to trust the hugger.To bond successfully with a romantic partner,males are thought to need testosterone and vasopressin boosts a male's energy,attention and aggression.When men in love experience the effects of vasopressin,they have laser like focus on their beloved and actively track her in their mind's eyes,even when she isn't present.
Love circuits in men get extra kick when stress levels are high.After an intense physical challenge ,for instance , males will bond quickly with the first willing female they lay eyes on.This may be the reason,military men under stress of war often bring home brides.Women, by contrast,will be able to express affection and desire when she is stress free.This is one main reason, why couple's quarrel during their middle age.When woman experience betrayal or loss of love ,they also respond differently than men do.When love is lost,abandoned men are three to four times more likely to commit sucide.Women ,by contrast,sink into depression.They crib and cry all the time and withdraw from social activities.Love is absolutely a phenomena of brain, the long term stay is possible only when the partner understand the biological difference and accept each other in totality.
Happy Valentines day :)
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