Love - Hate Relationship

How may times have you heard yourself or your friends stating about their true love and next month talking about how frustrated they are in relationship. To be very honest, i have never encountered any true love or accept someone unconditionally till this date. All of us dream of true love and everyone of us are imperfect in our own way , thats the uniqueness of each individual

The common view of love involves an element of receiving something, I love choclate really means that I enjoy getting the experience of the taste of choclate, similarly , " I love you" commonly implies " I enjoy believing that you will give me security and care me throughout life time". What is truly sought is something , we all experience painfully missing from life : some comfort sense of absolute belonging and acceptance. But in reality, we perceive relationship as the way we want more than considering our partner's interest,this feeling is sublimely lost when we become older and independent .

As shocking it may sound, most of us who claim to be loving are not giving selflessly. Instead , we are addressing a hidden psychological desire either to avoid being abandoned or to feel powerful. All of us want unconditional love but how many of us are ready to give unconditional acceptance, there is always the element of me...my wants, my desire...you cannot impose any restrictions on my freedom, this is the general essence of human nature.

 Love and hate are two close terms. Most of the couple , i have met are of Tom and jerry relationship, they can never stand each other but cannot be without each other. This reminds me of  Katharine Hepburn quote "Sometimes, I wonder if men and women really suit each other.Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then."

Love- Hate relationship is the most generic modern love realtionship as  every realtionship comes with its own terms and conditions .We generally fall into desparate desire, fatal attraction but one cannot fall into love as love is not a feeling , its sacrifice of sorts , and its sacrifice of all the illusions that our culture expects from us with a humble offering of understanding and compassion , something better than what others "see" in their blindness.